Hello Beautiful Babes,

After hitting some low points in life, it can become difficult to rise above all the negativity and push through. When negative stuff happens in our lives, it can knock us down and make being positive pretty difficult. Mental health becomes super important in this process of rising up.

As someone who struggles with anxiety, I can fall into these pretty negative states when lots of bad things happen to me. I get the “of course it would happen to me” mentality; which is super unhealthy for your mental wellbeing. 

Yes, negative shit happens and it totally sucks but it shouldn’t defeat you. However, it still can have the power to knock you into a deep rut. You then feel stuck and unhappy with life. You don’t enjoy things you use to and you’re unmotivated to do better. I get it, 100%.

So, lots of unfortunate things have been occurring in my life, yes. But, I cannot let those things define me or hold me back from greatness. Although bad things have been happening, there are always going to be good, positive things too. It’s what you choose to focus on that impacts your mood. And when you’re in a negativity rut, you choose to focus on those things. It’s like a vicious cycle with your mind. It’s hard not to focus on the bad stuff when it happens because hello, it stinks!

The key here is to let the bad stuff motivate you or change your perspective in some way. The thing with hitting rock bottom is that it completely changes you as a person. You become more self-aware and you build a thicker skin to handle more bad stuff.

Rock bottom is the worst, and I’ve been there, but it’s also what has shaped me into the strong human being that I am. Without those extreme lows and times of pain, I would not be the self-aware and hard working person that I am. Shitty situations make for amazing life lessons.

What’s the point?

I’m writing this post today because I’ve been feeling pretty stuck in my life lately. I keep trying to have a more positive, cheerful outlook on my life but then boom, something bad happens. Anxiety in these situations never helps, it makes me feel unworthy and not good enough for anyone. When that’s simply not the case. But, overcoming that thought process is difficult.

I want people to know that hitting an all time low in life does suck but in some weird way, it’s healthy.

[You’re probably thinking “ummm…what?”]

Yes, I think it is healthy. Let me explain:

I read a quote the other day and it said this “…and then I fell apart, and it was the most beautiful moment ever, because right then, I realized that I could put the pieces back together the way I wanted them to be.”

That’s when it clicked for me. I’ve had plenty of negative experiences in my life, as has any other human. It just happens. Life is not perfect. We can let those moments define who we are and hold us back or we can take our shattered life and piece it back together just the way we want.

Right now, a lot has changed for me. I am in a HUGE transition period in my life. In just over a month I will be done with college, I will need to find a new home, I will get a job of some sort and lots will change. It’s exciting but also scary. Things are continuing to change each day. I never expected to be where I am right now, but here I am.

So, back to the whole point I am trying to make.

I just want my readers to understand that hitting rock bottom isn’t all bad, even though it totally feels that way. Rock bottom is where we learn the most about ourselves, we find our strength to rise up and we are able to make a badass comeback. This may sound sad but when I hit low points in my life, it sorta recharges me motivation to go out there and do epic sh*t.

Just one more quote to wrap this post up – “A successful woman (or man) is one who can build a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at her (him)”

People will always try to bring you down, bad things will always find their way into your life and negativity happens. How you react to all of these things defines who you are. Let that stuff happen, let it motivate you and let it lead you to success. You are stronger than any challenge that comes your way.

Thank you for stopping by PYM today.

You’ve totally got this!

xo, Lyss